I’m a regular reader and visitor to Hotwifeblog. I’m a married man of 60 years but full of energy and sexual desires. My wife whom I’ve been married to for many years is a great mother, lover and best friend. She is not that much experienced in sexual matters and over the years I’ve introduced her to stories, pictures and video’s in the hope of expanding her pleasures.
She is fairly submissive and I most always take the lead, which is good. However the one thing that she is reluctant to do is fuck another man for me either with her or without her. I did though on one occasion when she was a little drunk convince her to bring back home a guy we had met one evening at a party. Mind you she was in her 30’s at the time with looks and a body (which she still has) that make men notice her and I can see them wondering what she would be like to fuck.
Anyway they both ended up in bed with each other and I watched though a small gap in the door. I so much wanted to get in a join them but knew it would ruin the situation. After they had finished I drove the guy back to where he lived and arranged another date to meet up again. Unfortunately when I got back home from dropping him off and getting into bed with her to relive and talk over what had happened.
She went all cold and distant. With a little stroking, kissing and advances on my part I managed to get her in the mood. When I eased my dick into her I felt the cum and warmth of what the guy had left in her. I was blown away and this was the best fuck I have ever had. I had never cum so much. Needless to say we didn’t make our second date.
I had always envisioned and wanted her to give me a cunt full of fresh cum that I could fuck. Although me being quiet dominant and her submissive I’m driving myself mad on how I can get her to be as accommodating and promiscuous as she once was. I read the stories from other cucks and how willing and cooperative their wives are to willingly and wantingly fuck mother men for them, that I’m reaching out for advise and ideas on what I can do to get her to be a hotwife. It’s been so long since I had a great fuck. I don’t want to do it with anybody else. I just want her to be the hotwife that I know she can be. Any ideas or advice please?
From: Alf – London
From Anna
Dear Alf,
First, without any other information, I will assume your wife is around your age. The older we get, the fewer risks we are willing to take. Does she still have a vibrant sex drive, or is it diminishing. She may not feel as attractive as she used to. I know it is something I struggle with. It’s just as important to know what she wants and needs. You can’t convince her to do this. You have to lead her to a place where she feels safe, desired, and free to explore.
I believe you got such a cold response because you jumped straight into the deep end. Sex with another man is a huge step and is something you need to ease into gently. She may have enjoyed the sex, but she obviously experienced some regret afterward. This is where reclaiming is important. Letting her know she is loved and that everything is good. Alcohol can be a great way to help get relaxed but getting drunk and doing something like this is a recipe for disaster.
One statement from your message stands out. “I had always envisioned and wanted her to give me a cunt full of fresh” You can’t focus on what you want. She has to want the same thing. If she only does it for you, you will have problems. Stop saying I want and start saying She wants.
I would advise that you try some smaller steps first. First, read How to Turn My Wife Into a Hotwife. We will soon release a full Hotwife/Stag/Vixen guide covering this topic in detail. Then, read our post on The Hotwife Challenge.
You have to start with communication. What do each of you want? What are her fears? Is she even interested? Just talk to her without trying to convince her. She must feel safe, loved, and, most importantly, that you have her back and are looking out for her best interest.
Start small by taking her to dinner without wearing panties. Talk about the men you see and get her to tell you who she finds attractive. The challenge posts have over 80 challenges you can take, starting small and gradually progressing to more advanced activities. Take your time and make it a journey.
If and when you get to the big moment, ensure she is the focus of everything. Make her feel so wanted, desired, and loved that she is ready and willing. When she is the focus, you might get everything you want. Creating a Hotwife takes time and patience, just like tending a garden.
With Love, Anna x0x0x
